Wednesday, April 26, 2006

Tuesday, April 25, 2006

Rex had a strange week last week. He is currently taking about 20 different supplements to try to detoxify his body and build his immune system so that it can kick this cancer out of his body. With that, he has had some days where he hasn't felt up to par. He has had some times when his abdomen has had tingling sensations and numbness in the areas of the esophagus, spleen, and kidneys. Sometimes, we think that these are feelings of healing and detoxification taking place; then, part of us feels that maybe we are in denial and things are getting worse instead. I have no doubt that nutritional therapy has its merit; however, it doesn't necessarily mean that Rex is reaping its benefits. Statistically, he has very little chance of becoming cancer free and going into remission. Yet, at the same time, someone has to make up the the winning percentage however small that number is. Plus, I know that there are many people that have consistently prayed for us since the beginning. Rex' body has already shown evidence of that with the amount of healing that he has already experienced.


I am amazed to look at Rex and see how healthy he looks and then process that he has Stage IV cancer living in his body. I am amazed that he has the strength to put in the hours (almost full time level) that he has been able to put in at work these last four weeks knowing that his body is in a battle for its life. I think that's the power of prayer. Again, I thank you for your prayers.

Update on Erin: Erin's CT scan and EEG did not reveal any kind of abnormality or seizure disorder. It's not completely conclusive, but right now we have decided to treat this as a one time incident. If it happens again, then, we will take the next step of meeting with a neurosurgeon and further tests. We are going to just keep an eye on her and make sure that she stays hydrated and nourished as that was the likely trigger of her collapse.

Many of us have heard about the fruits of the spirit for many years. We've been taught what they were; we've memorized the Scripture detailing the fruits of the spirit. Yet, many times we have taken them lightly just like the ten commandments. We don't argue with them, yet we really don't ponder and seriously realize their importance. Have you ever thought about how you develop these fruits in your life? When I look at them, I feel so small because I don't think that I exhibit these fruits much at all. I can remember many times when I was not kind or gentle or patient or loving or self-controlled. Then, I wonder if I will ever be remembered or thought of in light of these traits. Will anyone ever say or think that I walked in the Spirit? How do you attain these character traits in your life? Do you exhibit these qualities in your home? in your extended family? in your neighborhood? in your friendships? in your sporting events that you participate in? in your church family?

When I think about this, I know that in my life it is hardest to show these within my family and extended family. When I am tired or overwhelmed, it is easy for me to illustrate the exact opposite: impatience, harshness, unkindness, turmoil, and irritability. So, how do you get patience? By enduring moments that test your patience.

I believe most of our opportunities to learn this come from within our own families. Everytime that you are exposed to another's inadequacies or sins, you have the potential to develop some love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentless, and self-control. When you are around that annoying in-law or that annoying co-worker or that annoying teammate or even that annoying circumstance, you have the opportunity to take that annoyance and turn it into a fruit for God with your response. What do the fruits of the Spirit do? They show the world that He is different. It shows the world that we are only different because we have His Spirit living in us. It shows our families that He is real. We get the added benefit of being more relaxed and less stressed. Many of us have people in our very own families that don't have Jesus in their lives. Are we showing them love? joy? peace? longsuffering? kindness? goodness? faithfulness? gentleness? self-control? Do we have fruit in our lives that point to the hope that is only found in Jesus Christ?

As a believer, I think that most every circumstance or encounter we have has the potential to develop maturity in us, yet many times, we are too lackadaisical to clench the moment for what it is -- a chance to develop fruit for God. I believe that God allows us to be surrounded with adversity so that we can take that adversity and develop fruit. It can be through circumstances or people.

I have mentioned before that Erin and Amber are participating in softball this spring, and we have definitely encountered such an opportunity. There is one particular girl on the team that is very difficult to deal with; she is bossy, taunting, and downright mean to others. She has pretty much alienated everyone on the team as a friend. She has exasperated and totally frustrated my girls to no end. My flesh hopes that she doesn't show up to practice or the games. But, I know that this is an opportunity for my girls to learn what it means to have the fruits of the Spirit, and therefore, I try to teach them how to respond to her taunts and encourage them to pray for her.

I think its fair to say that most everyone has someone in their family, extended or in-laws, that annoys and frustrates them endlessly. Sometimes, the easiest thing to do is to avoid them and sometimes, it is the best thing. But, I believe that God in His Sovreignty has put that person in your life to give you an opportunity to grow and mature. Do you embrace it as an opportunity or do you shun it as a nuisance?

Read Galatians and really meditate on the words of this powerful Scripture. It's easy for us to point the finger at the unrighteousness in others; it's hard to take that unrighteousness and demonstrate love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.

Galatians 5:13-26
13 For you, brethren, have been called to liberty; only do not use liberty as an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another. 14 For all the law is fulfilled in one word, even in this: "You shall love your neighbor as yourself." 15 But if you bite and devour one another, beware lest you be consumed by one another! 16 I say then: Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh. 17 For the flesh lusts against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh; and these are contrary to one another, so that you do not do the things that you wish. 18 But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law. 19 Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lewdness, 20 idolatry, sorcery, hatred, contentions, jealousies, outbursts of wrath, selfish ambitions, dissensions, heresies, 21 envy, murders, drunkenness, revelries, and the like; of which I tell you beforehand, just as I also told you in time past, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God. 22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law. 24 And those who are Christ's have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. 25 If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit. 26 Let us not become conceited, provoking one another, envying one another.


Ask God to help you walk in the Spirit today.

He is Worthy,

Donna Meadows

Sunday, April 16, 2006

Sunday, April 16, 2006

I came across this article (the link is below) and I thought it was fabulous. It is amazing when I am searching the internet for something specific, and God directs my search to something totally unrelated to what I am actually searching for but it has a significant impact on my life. That is the case with this article that I found. It is from John Piper's ministry website.

As I read the article, I couldn't help but think about being that piece of clay on The Potter's Wheel. I envisioned Jesus with his strong, loving hands on me forming, shaping, and designing me for His Purpose and His glory. If we would encounter every circumstance or difficulty as a refining process and as a molding process, then I believe that we would experience peace and contentment beyond words; we have peace when we trust Him and His Sovreignty; we have contentment in His unique design for us.

http://www.desiringgod.org/library/fresh_words/2006/021506.html

This article was written specifically for someone facing cancer, but I think that we can apply these ten points to any difficult circumstance or illness that we face. What difficult circumstance are you facing today? Please don't waste your circumstance; grasp it with a passion to glean God's purpose for you. Draw closer to Him and give Him glory.

I am firmly holding onto Jeremiah 29:11 these days. Really meditate on the words in this passage. It gives me cold chills as I ponder how much God loves me. He has a purpose and a plan for you if you will only seek it and embrace it.

Jeremiah 29:11
For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.


Donna Meadows

Friday, April 07, 2006

Thursday, April 6, 2006

It has been a couple of weeks since I've sent an update. Rex is gaining strength and energy each day. He has pretty much been working a full schedule the last two weeks. Praise the Lord!

Some of you have the latest update, but for those that don't I want to go back to our visit with the surgeon and update from my last update.

We went to see the surgeon the week before last. He was encouraged by the marked improvement in Rex; however, prior to this last PET scan, the doctors had staged Rex as a stage IV cancer patient, but in their minds were really believing and treating him as if he were stage II. Because of the improvement in the spleen and adrenal gland, they were more inclined to believe that those areas are indeed cancerous. So, with the pleasant surprise of marked improvement, there also seems to be a disappointment among Rex' doctors in the reality of a stage IV battle instead of a stage II battle. Before this last PET scan, there was an aggressive approach, a deliberate approach, and a decisive plan of attack on the part of the doctors. Now, they seem stumped. One of the reasons that they didn't believe the spleen and adrenal gland were cancer was because they had not ever seen esophageal cancer go to the those areas before.

Dr. Sarantou has encouraged us to seek doctors that think outside the box. He recommends us to talk to some surgeons in Chicago and at USC in Los Angeles. As far as oncology is concerned, there is some talk as to maybe doing more chemo and then surgery later. Typically, surgery is not recommended for stage IV patients.

I've expressed before that I am not keen on surgery at all. Certainly, I want Rex to be rid of this cancer. I guess what I don't like about the idea of surgery is that the surgery seems to be treating the symptons not the cause of his cancer. Rex' esophagus, spleen, adrenal gland, or lymph nodes are not the cause of his cancer. And, I guess the typical response to my thinking is that if we could treat the cause then we would have the cure for cancer. If you look at the fact that we all have cells in our body that can potentially turn to cancer; then, given the right circumstances or treatment, we can reverse the mutation with the right treatment. One thing that I am learning is that I have yet to read about a stage IV cancer patient that has survived and become cancer free with conventional medicine alone. There are plenty of cases that you can read about where someone has beaten stage IV cancer with nutritional treatments alone and/or combined with conventional treatments. Because of this, Rex and I are both soaking up everything we can read about nutrition, what affects our bodies and how it affects our bodies.

Since the beginning, Rex has been drinking an herbal tea that is made from four different roots. He has been taking some juice supplements. I have been juicing some fresh fruits and vegetables for him. He is also currently taking a couple of other supplements that are good at putting enzymes in his body. We have made changes in the things that we buy and the things that our family eats. Jordan Rubin's book, The Maker's Diet, has had a huge impact on us. I recommend everyone to read that book. We don't necessarily think that this book is THE answer to Rex' cancer. Nevertheless, it is filled with some very valid arguments about how we eat and what foods we eat. It has certainly made us more aware and more deliberate in what we eat.

Rex has an appointment next Wednesday with a medical doctor who complements his conventional education with alternative treatments. We have been praying for clear wisdom and guidance as we fight this battle, and it is interesting to see God steer us in a different direction. He seems to be closing some doors and opening different doors for us. Continue to pray for wisdom and direction; pray for healing. We give God all of the glory for all of the success Rex has had through this.

Changing gears a little bit--

With the nice weather that we have been having, I have been taking my free time and spending it playing with the girls outside, so I haven't reserved time to send updates. The girls are playing some softball this spring. This last Saturday, we had a scare as they were practicing. Erin had just hit the ball and was on first base. While standing there, she dropped face first to the ground. I didn't see her fall; I just saw her face down in the dirt not moving. The coach got to her before I did, and when he turned her over she was blue in the face and staring straight ahead without any focus. Immediately, I thought she was having a seizure of some sort. She wasn't jerking or anything; the only movement she made was a little bit of jerk like a resistance as the coach was trying to pick her up. By the time, the coach said her name the second time, she came to and got up and started crying. She scraped her chin pretty good. Because it was so brief, I wasn't sure if she had just passed out or had a seizure. She has never to my knowledge had a seizure before. She drank some fluids and got a little to eat and seemed to be fine afterwards. Once we got home, I noticed that she was walking kinda straddled, and I asked her why she was walking funny. She said that her shorts were wet. I then realized that she had experienced incontinence when she collapsed on the field. Because of the incontinence, we are pretty certain that she had a seizure. She will have a CT scan and EEG done on April 17th.

This somewhat hit Rex and I pretty hard -- seizures can be a scary and debilitating thing to deal with. It is possible that this was triggered by low blood sugar and/or slight dehydration since it had been several hours since she had eaten or drank. Not long before that incident she had said that she was thirsty, but I don't think that she got herself anything to drink. She did have a head injury two years ago, and didn't show any signs of brain injury that you typically look for. However, I would be more surprised if this incident didn't tie back to that injury than I would be if it was something unrelated. I just ask you to pray that the results of the testing would give us some conclusive answers. I would love for this to be a one-time occurrence.

As you make choices leading into summer, please give much thought about making an impact on those around you, an impact that is eternal. One of the reasons that we decided to get the girls involved in softball this spring is so that we could be around unchurched people. With Rex' cancer, we have an opportunity to really show others the hope that comes from Jesus Christ. So, while the girls are having some fun, they are also learning much more than softball. We have a door opened to be around other families, develop relationships and hopefully share the Good News. When we were signing up to play softball, I explained to the girls that they would learn the game of softball, but that they were also going to be around kids that didn't come from a Christian home, and that they would probably see or hear things that we don't do. And, that we need to show them Jesus' love and pray for them and be an example for them and share with them.

So often, I see the extremes in family habits. I see the homes where the parents spend a great deal of time keeping their kids sheltered and innocent from every part of the world, and then I see other families that claim to be Christians that are so entrenched in the world, you don't see anything different in them that what you see in the world. I am habitually observant of people. I grew up being a part of both of those extremes at different times in my life, and I have some thoughts that are affecting the way I parent.

I have seen kids that have been so sheltered and lived apart from anyone different than them that became adults not knowing how to talk to or relate to people that lived a different life. Then, as adults, they either chose to stay in their sheltered world never venturing outside of their comfort zone, or they just dive in and live like the world with no boundaries in sight.

I do believe in sheltering them from evil. I have chosen to shelter them from ungodly things, such as trash TV and false doctrine. I have not sheltered them from every person that doesn't live and breathe the things we live and breathe. There are unbelievable teaching moments if we will only grasp them. Most everyone lives in a family that may have lost family members, whether immediate or extended. Take those family gatherings and teach your kids to love that lost family member or unchurched family member and be Christ to them. And, while they may see things or hear things that are so unlike your family, even unrighteous, you can teach them how to interact and develop relationships with people that live differently. You can teach them why we do things this way; most importantly, you can teach them that people need Jesus to live a righteous life. There is no other way to live righteously apart from Christ.

See, I look at this as a "controlled environment training." There is going to come a day soon, probably as a teenager, when my kids are going to be faced (when mommy and daddy are no where around - an "uncontrolled environment") with a choice, a choice to do the right thing or a choice to join in something that they have been taught that is clearly wrong. If you haven't allowed them to be around people that live different as a youngster when you are close by and ready to redirect or steer your children with a righteous response, then you have allowed perfect training time to escape. More than that, "controlled training environments" make it easier for your kids to get out of their comfort zone and minister to the world as they get older. Now, I don't have a family that has drunken parties. If it's the type of gathering that starts out ok and eventually turns drunken or whatever, then going early and leaving as it starts to get out of hand is probably the best choice. And, as you are going home, explain to them why you left when you did. It's not because you think you are better than them; rather, you belong to Christ and that is behavior that does not please Him, therefore, we do not participate. Use it as an opportunity to pray for them right then.

My oldest child has a very sensitive spirit to our friends and family that do not attend church or show interest in spiritual things. She has on a few occasions been very broken about it and cried for them and wished that they loved Jesus. I was able to take those times at that very moment and sit down with her and pray for these loved ones she was crying over. I want to nurture that burden in her heart; I want her compassion to be a passion to lead them to Christ. I want my kids to see that passion in my heart. I want to be that example for them.

Whether it's in a sports league or just your family, teach your kids to care for those around them, especially that person that is the most annoying on the team or in the family. Use it as a chance to show the love of Christ. I don't want to teach my kids to be scared of unchurched/lost people; I want them to embrace them with the Good News. What a tremendous opportunity you have with this.

Thank you for your prayers. Even in the midst of this storm that seems to never let up, I know that God is good.

Psalm 106: 1 - 5 1 Praise the Lord! Oh, give thanks to the Lord, for He is good! For His mercy endures forever. 2 Who can utter the mighty acts of the Lord? Who can declare all His praise? 3 Blessed are those who keep justice, And he who does righteousness at all times! 4 Remember me, O Lord, with the favor You have toward Your people; Oh, visit me with Your salvation, 5 That I may see the benefit of Your chosen ones, That I may rejoice in the gladness of Your nation, That I may glory with Your inheritance.

Have a blessed day!

Donna Meadows